You already love your child. But love alone isn't a framework
Most parents parent the way they were parented.
There is another way
You've read the books. You've tried the approaches.
Gentle parenting. Conscious parenting. Attachment theory...
And still something isn't quite working. You're snapping when you swore you wouldn't. The patterns you promised yourself you'd break are still running. Your child resists. You push. You feel like you're parenting for you, not for them.
It's not because you're getting it wrong.
It's because every parenting framework you've tried starts from the same flawed premise: that your child is a blank slate you are responsible for shaping. That you know what they need better than they do. That your job is to instruct, correct, and redirect until they become the person they're supposed to be.
What if that premise is the problem?
Parenting Spiritually offers a different starting point entirely. Your child arrived as someone. With their own spiritual purpose, their own path, their own reason for being here. Your role isn't to create them. It's to recognise them and guide them toward what they came to do.
This book will change not just how you parent. It will change how you see your child.
HEAR FROM AUTHORS IAN AND PEARL ROGERS
Why nothing has worked yet.
Most parents know exactly what they're doing wrong. That's the part nobody tells you. Knowing doesn't fix it.
Ian and Pearl explain why. And what actually does.
What if you've been given the
wrong job description?
For generations, parenting has been meant instruction.
Do this. Don't do that. I know best. It's how most of us were raised, and so it's how we parent — not because we chose it, but because we never questioned it.
The instructional model has a cost. Children raised inside it learn that being "good" means silencing their own instincts to please someone else.
They grow up seeking approval, suppressing their own nature, and gaining love through compliance. Then they become adults trying to unlearn all of it.
Parenting Spiritually starts somewhere different.
Every child arrives with a spiritual purpose. They chose their life. They chose their parents. And they came equipped — not as a project to complete, but as a person in progress. The parent's role is to guide them toward what they came here for. Not to override it.
This is not permissive parenting. It is not the absence of boundaries. It is parenting that works with who your child is, rather than against it.
What changes when you read this book:
How to raise a child without suppressing the person they already are
How to guide without control. And why the difference matters more than any behaviour strategy.
How to recognise your child's spiritual purpose and support it from birth through adulthood
How to stop parenting from fear and start parenting from something that actually holds
How to release yourself from the impossible pressure to get it right. Because the framework does the work
This is what changes.
From the moment you decided to become a parent to the moment your grandchildren arrive.
This is not a book for one stage of parenting. It covers the entire journey, with specific guidance for each phase — and it is as useful to a grandparent as it is to a parent expecting their first child.
What you'll find inside:
Practical, stage-by-stage guidance from pre-conception through to parenting adult children
Real-world examples that show exactly how these principles work in daily life
A framework that gives you something to come back to at every age and stage. Not a set of rules that stops working when your child changes
The spiritual reasoning behind what drives children's behaviour — which makes the practical steps make sense in a way no psychology-based model ever quite manages
Chapters on adopted children, step-children, parenting across different ages simultaneously, grandparenting, and what children actually need from mothers versus fathers
The pattern most parents don't know they're running.
When a child is born, they are helpless. Completely reliant on the adults around them. That part is true.
But somewhere in the early years, the reliance the child actually has, physical & practical, becomes something else. It becomes the assumption that the parent knows best. Not just about safety. About everything. About who the child is, what they want, how they should feel, and who they should become.
When the child makes their own choice, the parent overrides it. This is instructional parenting. And it teaches children one thing above all else: that being loved requires compliance.
Children raised this way learn to silence their own instincts. They become expert at reading what other people need. They gain love through compliance. Then they grow up and spend years in therapy, coaching, and self-development trying to work out why they don't know who they are.
Parenting Spiritually names this cycle. And then it breaks it.
Not by removing structure. Not by becoming permissive. By starting from a different truth: your child is already someone. They arrived with a purpose. Your job is to help them achieve it — not to replace it with yours.
“Imagine a world where parents recognise the independence of their child and vow to help them achieve what they came to earth for.”
What readers say:
"No other book gave me the reasoning - and importance."
"I could see every pattern — in how I was parented, in how I parented, in what I'd passed on without meaning to"
As a mother of 7 children, I have celebrated the highs and struggled with the lows of parenting. I bore my 1st child at 19 and my 7th at 42. No other book or course gave me the reasoning, understanding and importance of the different phases of growth, the impact of spiritual values on a child’s life, and what practical actions can be taken in the grind of daily living to equip them to recognise their own power and reason for being here in this life journey." — Trish Lehman
"I came to this book as a parent of grown children and it still stopped me in my tracks. I could see every pattern in how I was parented, in how I parented, and in what I'd passed on without meaning to. It's not a guilt trip. It's a completely different way of seeing the whole thing. I've recommended it to every parent I know. I refer to this book all the time and my grown children refer to it now they're parents" - — Juliet Reid
"I have a stronger, more loving relationship with my son because of it."
"This parenting book has been an invaluable source of information to help me understand my child and the role I need to play so he can achieve what he's meant to in his life. I've referred to it so many times over the years."
- Lucinda Pyman
"It's given me confidence in my decisions."
“It’s my go-to when I’m unsure what’s best for my son. It’s given me confidence in my decisions and comfort knowing we’re parenting in a way that truly supports him. I can’t recommend it highly enough.”
- Olivia White
"As a parent of four it never collects dust on the shelf."
“As a parent of four, Parenting Spiritually has been life-changing. I use it regularly for guidance — it never collects dust on the shelf.”
- Samantha Anna
About the authors
Ian and Pearl Rogers have spent decades watching adults trace their struggles back to childhood
Ian and Pearl Rogers are founders and directors of one of the world's leading institutions for spiritual education and development.
Through decades of teaching mediumship, spiritual counselling, and relationships, they noticed something that kept appearing: most of the emotional pain adults carry began in childhood. Not because their parents were bad people. Because their parents were working from a model that didn't serve the child.
Parenting Spiritually was born from that realisation.
Both are acclaimed mediums and teachers. They access their knowledge directly from the spiritual world — which means this book carries wisdom that goes far beyond conventional parenting theory. Practical. Advanced. And brought firmly to earth.
They are parents and grandparents to five.
Topics Covered
Table Of Contents
The concepts given will enthral you and all of the practical examples delight you. This is a book which covers from pre-conception to parenting adult children and is just as applicable to a grandparent as it is to a prospective parent.
Prologue
Chapter 1
What is parenting?
Chapter 2
Parenting on an instructional model
Chapter 3
The concept of time in parenting
Chapter 4
Parenting through choice
Chapter 5
External effects of parenting through choice
Chapter 6
Setting expectations for the child
Chapter 7
Parenting for the child, not parenting for the parent
Chapter 8
Treating children the same no matter their gender
Chapter 9
Gender
Chapter 10
The beginning of the parenting cycle
Chapter 11
Responsibility of the parent
Chapter 12
What new parents need to know about their child pre-birth
Chapter 13
The birth
Chapter 14
Parenting a child to 3 months
Chapter 15
Parenting a child from 3 months to 2 years
Chapter 16
Parenting from 2 to 12
Chapter 17
Adopted children
Chapter 18
Step-children
Chapter 19
The price of raising non-independent children
Chapter 20
The differing roles of mother and father in the child’s life from 2 - 12
Chapter 21
The phases of growth and major learning for a child 2 - 12 years
Chapter 22
The impact of spiritual values on a child from 2 to 12 years
Chapter 23
Parenting a child from 13 - 21 years of age
Chapter 24
The impact of spiritual values from the age of 13 - 21 years
Chapter 25
Parenting scenarios with teenagers
Chapter 26
Parenting from 21 years
Chapter 27
The role of grandparents and other external figures
Chapter 28
Learning how to parent from the young
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